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长篇影评
1 ) 很高兴遇到你，不过我比以前更孤独了
“小仙女”事件又出后续了。这个一夜爆红的主播从猛涨几十万粉后取关同公司的所有人员，然后又被公司勒令关停微博跟金主闹翻，坐实炒作嫌疑。然而大众们已经获得了他们想要的：一场以diss极品前任为名的大狂欢。
前有小G娜，后有李雨桐，再来一个欧拉，手撕前任似乎成了网民们一个屡试不爽的G点。
但是这厢撕归撕，那厢又跑到微博上隔空喊话要参加前任婚礼了。Exo?新娘本人知道吗？新郎同意了吗？
……还是来聊电影吧。
这是一部非常小成本的独立电影，基本在一个酒店两个房间里就拍完了，除了男女主角外基本都是面目模糊的背景，还有一个来打酱油的奥利维亚·王尔德。
女主角海伦娜·伯翰·卡特大家都很熟了，蒂姆·波顿御用女主。
男主艾伦·艾克哈特最脍炙人口的角色是《蝙蝠侠2：黑暗骑士》里的双面人哈维·丹特，然后也经常给一串大牌影后当绿叶，包括朱莉娅·罗伯茨、格妮温斯·帕特洛、芮妮·齐薇格、凯瑟琳·泽塔-琼斯、希拉里·斯旺克、詹妮弗·安妮斯顿……
就像《四个婚礼和一个葬礼》、《婚礼傲客》、《单身19桌》、《我爱上的人是奇葩》……一样，婚礼永远是遭遇真爱/错爱的高发时段。
电影的开头，男人就一直在探头探脑地张望。而女人专心致志地盯着桌上被人遗漏的烟，趁人不注意悄悄踮脚溜过去，顺了就跑。
男人追了上去。
故事就这样开始了。
关于这部电影，有几个很好玩的点：
1）这是一部“对话电影”，类似《爱在》三部曲、《午夜邂逅》，《足迹》，人物和场景都极其有限，全程就是靠说说说个不停。就好像它的片名：Conversations with Other Women——与女人“们”的对话。但其实只有“一个”女人，即女主。而且从电影内容看，她也不是“Other”women，而是“The”one。
2）我们知道男主的新欢叫莎拉，女主的新欢叫杰弗里。但男女主的名字从头到尾都没有出现过。换言之，他们可以是任何一对普通男女。
前十几分钟的对话写得蛮好玩，很有机锋，真心话都藏在冰山下。
男：你既然都抽烟怎么会不喝酒。
（后面我们知道，这是男主年轻时的搭讪词之一）
女：我也知道这样不好，但抽都抽了。
（女主明知道会在婚礼撞到男主，但还是来了）
女：我是第七个伴娘的备选，所以我打算给新娘一个机会弥补她的过失。
（也是给你一个机会）
女：我不是个好伴娘，看，找替补就会是这样的下场。
（虽然你女友没来，但我已经结婚了，跟我一夜情什么下场你自己看着办）
在前15、16分钟，两人一直在模模糊糊的试探，同时插入了许多似乎是回忆的碎镜头，让人对这两人的关系不断推测又推翻，他们认识？不认识？一切都似曾相识，似是而非。
直到一个婚礼摄像师的出现，才冒冒失失地揭露出两人的过去：这是男主妹妹的婚礼，女主是以“前嫂子”的身份尴尬地来当伴娘。这时女主的心思已经昭然若揭了。
男主也一针见血地揭穿她：你现在要是不答应我，十年之后你都会想着这件事，你丈夫会问你怎么了，而你无法回答，婚姻就是这样慢慢破裂的。
然后？然后的事一句话就能说完：他们跳舞，上床，离开，结束。
What？那为什么还要花一个多小时看完这部碎碎念碎碎念的电影呢？
因为里面细细道出了关于前任的千回百转绕愁肠——
你走之后，全世界都是你的影子。
后来你身上的累累伤痕，比你直接从我身边走开更让人难过。
恋爱就像让对方剥下你的皮，并且知道他随时可能拿着你的皮离开。——苏珊·桑塔格
不是所有久别重逢都是旧情难了，有时候你只是别人幸福生活的一味调剂。
光芒万丈，怕你被衬得黯淡；平凡之福，怕你不甘于此。离开之后，担忧不曾停止。
年轻，愚蠢，粗心，是葬送感情的万能模板。可是再来一次，我们都知道是一样的结果。
你习惯性地贬低过去让自己好受，但我还是忍不住为你留一点好。
时间并没有改变一切，而有的人，一生都像在时间的夹缝中酣睡。
——所以，遇见你真好啊。
不过我觉得比以前更孤独了。
在男女的对话中，他们追忆起从十几岁相遇到快四十岁的中间这许多年，很多闪回段落像彩蛋一样遍布在各个角落，有时让你恍然生出一种时空错乱之感。
有时候又用左右画幅隔开现实与回忆，营造出一种怪异的气氛，好像男人在隔空与少女时代的她做爱。
但是这并不是一部出轨大戏，更像是一场短短几小时的午夜梦回，女人从始至终处在理智、冷静、成竹在胸的状态，男人像个小男孩一样试探、猜测、因为对方说他胖了就能不开心很久——哪怕没有明说他们分开的原因，但观众内心都能猜到。
在童话中过了午夜十二点，仙度瑞拉就要回到现实世界。而在电影里，在凌晨四点前，女人就要打点好所有行李赶往机场，回到自己父慈子孝的美满混音里。
别离前，两人穿着单薄的衣裳在冷清清的天台上，念念叨叨着一些傻话。那个时候，他们俩真像一对结婚四十年的老夫妻。
但是这些，都只是“如果”了。
顺便一提，男主给自己设计了很多有意思的动作戏，比如在女人说话，他会趁她不注意去闻她的头发。然后帮女人收行李时捡到她随手放的耳环，放到自己兜里。
最后女人上了去机场的出租车，让男人帮她扔掉那包烟，因为丈夫并不知道她抽烟。
男人还是很自然而然地就揣进了兜里。
两人上了两辆出租车。一个回到伦敦，去见比她大7岁的心脏科医生和3个可爱的孩子。一个回家，去见比他小16岁的舞蹈家女朋友。
两人跟各自的司机有一搭没一搭地说话。
对话也还像电影前15分钟一样充满机锋，看似在讲交通，其实是讲感情，以及其他那些牵牵绕绕的情绪。脸上还带着惋惜、不舍、怅然的表情。（仔细看左右画幅是分开的）
说着说着，画幅慢慢就融合在了一起。感觉两人坐上了同一辆车，要去往同一个地方。好像他们是对结婚多年的夫妻，正在从一个无聊的婚礼回来，将要一起回他们共同的家。而脸上那种厌倦、沉重、百无聊赖的神情，正是他们当年如果没有分开，现在的日常状态。
所以，全片最后一句台词，说得真好。
幸福真是好他妈难啊。
2 ) 分手无需再见
回到电影，曾经的爱人，十多年后在他人的婚礼上再见，女人再嫁了心脏科医生，男人生活中的女友则还是二十出头的妙龄少女。分手的当年，女人不辞而别，离开纽约去了伦敦；而在这么多年里，男人但凡在街上看到和女主身形相像的女生，还是会忍不住上去确认下是不是她。十多年后早已不再年轻的两人像当初那样拥着跳舞，接着，上楼做爱。男人贪婪地亲吻着女人的每一寸肌肤，突然男人停下，心疼地问女人”大腿上什么时候多了一条疤？“女人轻描淡写地解释，“不小心被车撞了下。" “当年不辞而别，回来的时候还带着伤口。“男人的声音多少有点哽咽。”你不能这样生活啊。“女人同样认真地告诉男人。还有几个小时，女人就要回伦敦了，再傻的观众都能看出来：当年，他们很相爱，此刻，他们仍有感觉。电影的最后，女人在浴室洗澡，男人一边听从女人的吩咐，帮赶时间的她收拾东西，一边对女人说着心里话。女人洗完澡出来，说，你刚说什么，水声太大我没有听见。最后的最后，两人坐在计程车上。电影全程采用分镜头叙述，两个画面，一边是女主，一边是男主，而也就在最后他们真正分开了，屏幕才合在了一起——看着像坐在同一辆车上。其实是两辆车，两个方向，两个世界。
无论是电影小说，还是现实生活，也许我们常常会问的一个问题便是，为什么相爱的人不能在一起。女主在电影里有这样一句对白：”深深相爱的人更擅于互相伤害。“而男主在女主洗澡的时候说得那句话则是”我爱你，无论好坏，请带着它上路吧。“
看来，风华正茂时相爱的恋人多年后还是不见的好。无关游泳圈和鱼尾纹。只是当年没成的现在也不会成，各自好自为之，该干嘛干嘛去吧。
3 ) Conversations with Other Women
后面很感人，飚泪了.....
"如果那个心脏病医生觉得你又老又衰而且很丑，一点都不可爱，我愿意陪你走完最后的人生 ，我会陪你散步，喂你喝水，喂你吃东西 "....
都毫无Physical attractiveness，还能对对方产生冲动，这才是真爱...... 只可惜他们相遇的太早，那个时候容忍总是一件困难的事情。
但是也没有那么可惜，因为“幸福就是很难。”.......
4 ) Quotes from IMDB
Woman: The illusion of effortlessness requires a great effort indeed.
Man: Time really can move in two directions. It doesn't matter to the universe anyway.
Man: It's good to be happy. But it's so fucking hard, you know.
Woman: Tell me, how old is umm... Sarah the Dancer.
Man: Oh, she's a... she's a college graduate.
Woman: Her age?
Man: She's a recent college graduate.
Woman: Yeah, like 21.
Man: 22.
[Woman walks away. Man follows]
Man: But she's 23 on August the 12th!
Woman: 23 on August the 12th... Well, that's a beautiful age.
Man: Why would you wanna know?
Woman: You know why I wanted to know.
Man: Maybe I do. Say it anyway.
Woman: I wanted to know because I wanted to know. I wanted know if you were flirting with me.
Man: What does Sarah's age have to do with it?
Woman: I am the same age as you, I think, and a man, my age, who prefers 23 on August the 12th might not flirt with someone who is... lets just say 15 years past 23 on August the 12th.
Man: You're 38 and you look it.
Woman: Fuck you.
Man: Right. And next year you're 39, and then 40. And after 40 you may as well die.
Woman: Thanks.
Man: If the cardiologist is, decides that you are too old and decrepit and ugly to be at all lovable, I am available to tolerate you in your golden years.
Woman: Thank you.
Woman: There are no happy endings in our future.
Man: Why did you come, really?
Woman: Do you want me to say I was hoping I'd see you?
Man: Yes - and I want you to mean it.
Woman: You're so romantic...
Man: By romantic, you mean old fashioned?
Woman: No, by romantic, I mean romantic.
Man: [in bed, before they are about to have sex] What are you thinking?
Woman: That it's probably a mistake.
Man: You don't have to do this.
Woman: As if the act in itself mattered.
[... ]
Woman: It's technicality. Don't you know what we're already done?
Man: What's it like being a doctor's wife?
Woman: A bit better than being a lawyer's wife. My first husband was a lawyer, so you see I have experienced both.
Man: And what's the difference?
Woman: The lawyer wore nicer suits.
Woman: You're just a dirty old pervert.
Man: Yes, I am. But I'm your dirty old pervert.
Man: If I told you I still loved you, that I always loved you, that I loved you to distraction, would you leave him?
Woman: No.
Man: What was your ex-husband like?
Woman: You know perfectly well what he was like.
Man: Mmhmm, refresh my memory.
Woman: No.
Man: Honestly I can't remember - the memory starts to go around forty, you know.
Woman: [sigh] He was red. He was kind of yellow - and black, and pink, and orange, and blue.
Man: What the fuck does that...
Woman: Magenta, purple, maybe a bit of maroon...
Man: Hey! What does that mean?
Woman: I don't know! It's what I see when I close my eyes.
Man: I thought married women aren't supposed to be Bridesmaids.
Woman: Who says?
Man: Bridesmaids are brides in training, they're like matrimonial interns.
Woman: Ah, it's just a small custom.
Man: Bridesmaids are supposed to be virgins.
Woman: Well, I don't see any virgins out there, did you?
Man: I didn't check.
Woman: I'm sorry. Come here. It was just something... it was just different. I didn't expect it. You used to be so thin. I mean you were insubstantial, really.
Man: God, the complements keep coming.
Woman: Yeah, but now... Now, you know what? Look at it this way. There's a grandness to you.Like, you know, the rings in a tree trunk asserting the passage of the time: Like "I have earned the right to fill up more space in the one universe."
Man: That's bullshit.
Woman: I tried.
[first lines]
Man: Wish me luck.
Man: [on relationships] In my opinion, when it gets too serious, it's over.
Woman: [Man takes off his t-shirt] Oh my god, you're fat.
[Man puts his t-shirt back on]
Man: I am not.
Woman: Yea, you are. You're far fatter than you're used to be.
Man: And you're far crueler than you used to be.
Woman: But sometimes, people who really love each other, well, they have an uncanny knack for making each other miserable.
[Last lines]
Man: It's good to be happy. But it's so fucking hard, you know.
Woman: Don't worry about him, he's just trying to get laid.
Woman: A woman never has a man's intense focus as much as she does before sex.
Woman: [on phone] I'm having, um, you know french fries, french onion soup and um, french toast I think and a pickle. Hm? Yeah, it's all very french except for the pickle.
5 ) 被忽视的好片子，平淡，自然
我喜欢这个影片的另一个原因是演员的精彩表演。影片的场景很简单，主要的内容就是两个人的对话。因此成功与否完全取决于台词和演员的表演。我看过Helena Bonham Carter不少片子，都是配角，但是印象还是挺深的。这次看她当主角还是挺痛快的。她本人的相貌和扮相都不是那种美女路线，但是很适合这个角色---年近40的中年妇女，有点姿色但是不出众。Araon Echhart的表演也不错。两个人的配合完美极了，有点庖丁解牛的感觉。
还有一个重要的原因就是剧情和台词。其实剧情的主线是很俗的，旧情人偶然或者故意的相遇。相互试探、勾起的回忆、复合的想法、各自的生活和家庭压力，说到底是现代城市人对于感情的反思，对于真挚感情的渴望，对于失败的感情的挫折感，对于新的感情的不安全感。对于现状的厌倦和对于过去的回忆拉近了两个人的距离，但是不安和犹豫一直如鬼魅一般推开他们。这种矛盾不是那么剧烈却挥之不去。
剧中的几个小高潮也非常出彩，在电梯里的故事简直要把人笑死，而天台上的相互谅解让人动情，被扔出窗外的礼服让人沮丧，而最终出租车的镜头让人彻底无奈。虽然画面终于合并成了一个完整的镜头，但是两个之间的距离却变成了无法跨域的鸿沟。
另外请注意，很罕见，本片中两个主角都没有名字。他们各自的家人都有名字，但是两个人始终没有喊对方的名字，而是以平和的对话开始，以平和的对话结束。
绝对值的一看的影片。"My heart was broken." "So you married a cardiologist."
6 ) Untouchable Touched Love
M(female): Why?
F: Because, they are afraid of death.
F: Do you know what attracts a man the most about a woman?
M: Heart?
F: Her mind.
F: Do you know what makes the man want the woman desperately?
M: Sex?
F: Knowing, she Wants him, as well.
F: Do you know the biggest secret that man has?
M: They all want a second, third... wife?
F: That, in the end, woman control the world.
M: Why is that?
F: Don't you know, everything man does, is to win his woman. Man bring food and money home, man buy flowers for woman, man work so hard to create his empire... yet they don't own the world. Woman, woman control man, thus the world.
M: ...
F: You know, I had so many women in my life, so many. I liked them, but I did not love them all. I love you, and I thought for a few seconds, I love you and I like you, which is rare.
F: Why you did not born earlier?
M: Because, you wouldn't love me as much as now, if I would. In fact, you might not even notice me or we might not meet each other. You might still drown to your casanova life, taking girls out like lighting a cigarette and tossing it before reaching its end.
F: That's not me.
M: That's not love, it's just crush. Rest for a couple of days, you will be fine. You will return to normal, like nothing happened, and you will treat me like another girl in life.
F: No, I would never do that. I look into your eyes, there is something, something about you... I couldn't tell, I couldn't figure it out. I know I love you.
M: I do not mess around with a married man.
F: I know. I understand that about you long ago. But there is just something, something in life you just cannot control, things are things, it just happened...
Girl: How are you two doing tonight? What brought you here?
F: Very well, thank you. This is our last night in town, so we are here.
Girl: Oh, that's great. So who is this beautiful, young lady?
M: We are just friends.
F: We are having a date. We are here only for the weekend, and somehow, I fell in love with this girl, and I am cheating on my wife.
Girl: ... oh, isn't that great? (walk away)
I suddenly realize, somehow, there are that kind of special women who can be attractive to classy men at any age in their life. No matter how old they are, they held up their head, and walk straight confidently. And those women will only taste better with age like red wine.
当你老了
叶芝（英国）
当你老了，头白了，睡意昏沉，
炉火旁打盹，请取下这部诗歌，
慢慢读，回想你过去眼神的柔和，
回想它们昔日浓重的阴影；
多少人爱你青春欢畅的时辰，
爱慕你的美丽，假意或真心，
只有一个人爱你那朝圣者的灵魂，
爱你衰老了的脸上痛苦的皱纹；
垂下头来，在红光闪耀的炉子旁，
凄然地轻轻诉说那爱情的消逝，
在头顶的山上它缓缓踱着步子，
在一群星星中间隐藏着脸庞。
时光不可逆转，年少不可重来
好一出《炮在黎明破晓前》。男人与女人切着情由，火苗从心头烧到唇角，对话是炮，缠绵是炮，现实也是炮，炸这朝夕不足的几小时，每个人都把过往现今烧得毫无矫饰，裸露着缠着年轮的躯体与灵魂，说你侬我侬不过是风是月，是鸡啼前的汹涌与日出后的决堤。真是喜欢他们的交锋，以及四十岁的真实，还有车门关闭前无法遮掩的眷恋。幸福啊幸福，真他妈的难。
一次别有用心的邂逅，一对鸳梦重温的男女，一夜和一辈子，无论发生什么了，为了明天的生活可以继续下去，即使内心很清楚眼下的一切决定都是错的，也要理智的去做。有时候幸福来的太早，年少时我们不懂，等到哪天懂了，一切也为时已晚了。很喜欢这类爱情片，偶尔也能跟着回望一下自己的人生。★★★★
看过的片里分屏用的最妙的，每一个分屏都是有意义的情绪表达或视角对比，最后在乘车分开的一刻又神奇地合到一起。小小地用了一点《去年在马里昂巴德》的回忆错位之壳，像爱在系列一样用小说式的对白脚本探讨了男欢女爱。所谓得不到的才是最好嘛。海姨真美啊，啊，啊，啊【
天哪也太令人难过了。heartbreaking. 爱真的有happy ending吗？intimate relationship真的有出路吗？人与人之间，只有短暂的、不孤独的幻觉。太难过了。再往前一寸都是举步维艰，背靠背走倒是很快就海阔天空。
最熟悉的陌生人，男人总是不切实际的浪漫，所以最后平行车后座上只能说It's good to be happy. But it's so fucking hard, you know.
有生之年 / 狭路相逢 / 终不能幸免
十年里 人们刻意不在我面前提起你 但他们不知道这其实适得其反 让我更想你。可曾经就是曾经，就像在这部电影里，没有名字的他们，只是男人和女人。
我不在时你在干吗？在无聊的变老。
像我像往日还未抽烟，不知你怎么变迁。
《爱情交响曲》（与女人们的对话）。影片最后一句：幸福真他妈难。点睛之语。为之前的一切。
最懂得彼此的人，却不一定能相守到老；当初以为只是放弃了一段感情，后来发现其实是放弃了一生。 很不错的一部话痨片~~
男主和女主演技尚佳，但他们之间依旧缺乏火花。汉伦娜脱掉晚礼服时，岁月在她身上留下明显的刻痕，这让我想起《爱在瘟疫蔓延时》，原著是马尔克斯的《霍乱时期的爱情》，结尾他们在船上的sex是我最不喜欢的部分。还有《心动》结尾的鞠躬和相片。那些不算完美的结局或许才是生活的真相。
海伦娜很可爱。不是那种轻松的爱情小品，而是对于生活过往的纪念。还算清新吧。幸福就是很难。
「很高兴遇见你，不过我觉得我比以前更孤独了。」干净的对话，没有过多的渲染，尽管如此话唠，但一点也不觉沉闷冗长，分屏的idea很棒。It's good to be happy, but it's so fucking hard, you know.★★★★
题目应更改为 《与过往爱情的对话》。导演很用心，抽丝剥茧的叙事手法令人令人眼睛一亮。
特别有趣的一部电影。观众大概最关心的是“屏幕到底什么时候合到一起”这个问题吧。而当他们再次分开各奔东西时，屏幕终于合到一起。c'est la vie.....相爱的人，他望她留下，她却只能离去。搞成舞台剧本来也可以的，不过那个分屏的idea太绝了！
她在洗澡的时候他说那番话的那段时间大概是我见过的“最孤独”的时刻了
真是一部不“正确”的电影，真是喜欢它。格局虽小，故事却很完整。大概只有曾经互相深爱过，再见面才能如此充满怀旧又温情又多少带点遗憾和怨恨地相处。当然前提双方都不是奇葩，双方内心深处还彼此相爱。然而相爱真的不一定相守。
这年头,幸福真他妈难找.